sex/having a child before marraige & what do ismailis th

Ty786 · Post by **Ty786** » Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:22 am

I have a question to do with our ismaili faith. I have a girlfriend and we are both in university and want to have a child.do you think its ok to have a child before marriage as an ismaili.So basically having sex before marrage.Our parents have okayed us.e a chid..And we will get married in 3 yrs. when  we finish university.I will marry her for sure we've been together for 7yrs.What do ismailis think of sex?

AsadALLAH · Post by **AsadALLAH** » Mon Dec 14, 2009 6:26 pm

What does your heart tell you?

shiraz.virani · Post by **shiraz.virani** » Mon Dec 14, 2009 8:27 pm

brother ty786, you dont have to ask this question to us !!!

you have to ask this question to yourself because you are the one who's gonna take care of your child

the question is , are you financially strong to support your wife and kid/kids ??

and if at all you wanna start a family why dont you just get married now !!!

in my opinion i dont think you should have a child before marriage, the best example is the life of our prophet[saw] and imams[as]

hope i answered your question !

naushad25 · Post by **naushad25** » Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:38 am

According to islam and ismailism, its called ZINA and thats one of the 10 dangerous bad things which Allah has said would not be forgiven at any cost. Zina also include this when both partners are ready for sex bcz its not official in islam. no matter what happens after u do it. Opinions differ.it doesn't matter what anyone say. If they are saying that u shud ask urself then i would say u will definitely say yes bcz u love her. But i would like to ask is your love ends on sex? is it the last thing u want from ur partner. I would suggest that if u r sure that u will get married then why not wait for it and do it after marriage, officially. so that ur not amongst those who will not be forgiven. What if something bad happens and the girl is left alone after that. u have to think abt her first. so better not to have it now. rest is ur decision but ismailism doesn't permit. u can ask our alwaez. Thank you

naushad25 · Post by **naushad25** » Tue Dec 15, 2009 8:01 am

I do want to ask that what does islam and ismalism says about kissing and hugging to love ones. its not our family friends.. but its a kiss to ur love with out marriage. what does islam says and any reference about it would be useful.[/u][/b]

Rizwana_Fazal · Post by **Rizwana_Fazal** » Thu Dec 17, 2009 5:25 pm

Wouldnt it be worth waiting for?, at the end of the day you'v got the rest of your lives still left for that, just enjoy ya selves while you can, once theres a baby youll have all sorts of responsibilities, only you guys can decide, but it is actually against islam to have sex or even to have a child before marriage. even if you have the right intentions because you still know what is right and wrong in our faith. in my opinion ur better off waiting. but its you that can decide really no one else.

naushad25 · Post by **naushad25** » Fri Dec 18, 2009 10:28 am

No, if you believe ismailism or any religion then u must do what they have asked for. Otherwise, why going for marriage as well. ppl do live-in relationships for years and years and they don't marry. thats how westerners go. But we have our religion. What will we answer when Allah will ask us that He gave us Imam and even we didn't respect His guidance. Allah might not ask this to wetern ppl bcz they dont have any living guidance. but we have faith and we believe. Enjoyment is other thing. I know u might have taken decision abt marriage after child but what if something goes wrong then who is responsible. Not only u and ur girl friend but all other ppl who are agreeing to ur decision are also responsible for that. We need to see the future. make it official and then have fun the whole life.